‘You went behind my back and read my diary’: Boyfriend Reads His Girlfriend’s Diary Without Her Consent, Gets Mad at Her When He Reads Explicit Content About a Past Lover

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    r/AITAH 5 days ago madrentar AITA: my boyfriend read my diary without consent and got angry about past lover in there
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    My boyfriend (21m) and I (21f) were studying in the library with our friends when he asked to use my computer for homework. I agreed since I wasn't using it at the time and was chatting with our friends. After about 20 minutes I noticed his mood go extremely sour, and I tried to get him to look at me to figure out what was happening but he wasn't having any of it. I just stayed talking to our friends to prevent it from getting awkward. He completely
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    shut down. After we were done and left the library, I asked what was wrong. He told me he found a diary entry in my computer and read through it. That diary entry was from about a year before this, and I hadn't met my current boyfriend yet. I had just had the best summer of my life, working at my dream summer job. So I decided to write about it to remember it. In this diary entry, I wrote
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    about fun experiences, meeting new friends, and a fling I had that summer. It was short, and there wasn't much to write, but I did put in some details about about how much I had liked him. . And My boyfriend was very upset at me after he read my diary, stating that I shouldn't have kept that stuff. He believes I look at that diary entry all the time and relive the sexual experiences in it. I was very mortified to
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    hear this because I felt I was the one who should be upset by that intrusion of privacy. And to be honest, I forgot about the diary entry and never opened it again after I wrote it. But he doesn't believe me. I feel very heartbroken and betrayed and embarrassed. He feels jealous and disgusted I would keep such a thing. We're both angry at each other and we haven't come to any agreement in arguments. AITA for feeling like I did nothing wrong and I'm
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    for feeling like I did nothing wrong and I'm allowed to be upset that he read my diary without my consent?
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    Medical_Gate_5721 • 5d ago "Hey. I'm not interested in being with someone who does something wrong and then trys to guilt me about it. You read a diary entry and then got pissy with me for it. You can apologize or off." you can
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    GroundbreakingTwo201 5d ago NTA Your boyfriend went digging, and, lo and behold, found something he didn't like. If he can't get over it, then you can find a new boyfriend.
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    Caspian4136 •5d ago NTA even in the slightest. Your boyfriend snooped, read something that he had no business reading and he well knew it. Because he's so immature and insecure, he's trying to make you out to be the bad guy. For what? Having a life and slept with someone else before you even met him?
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    So many red flags with this guy. Look deeper, I'm sure there are other instances of him acting this way. He's trying to gaslight you into thinking you did something wrong, when he's 100% at fault.
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    Latter-Ride-6575 • 5d ago He violated your privacy. He should be your ex-boyfriend
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    Koralmarai •5d ago NTA this guy sounds really insecure and like he's trying really hard to find reasons to start a fight with you for some reason. Red flag
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    Laiko_Kairen ⚫5d ago He's being and he has to know it, so he's clinging to "you read this all the time!" because it's the only thing even resembling an argument that he can make. Don't let him shift the issue. You did nothing wrong, Imao.
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    bkcarr87 5d ago So he asks to use it and TWENTY minutes later he's pissy - doesn't sound like he really wanted it for homework but to snoop instead. Time for this one to go down the road as my dad used to say.
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    hauntedyew •5d ago So you aren't allowed to have past lovers or a diary where you reflect on it? He snooped and disrespected your privacy.
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    Justneedthetip • 5d ago Don't read phones. Diaries or private stuff. It never ends well.
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    Existing-Horror-976 •5d ago Where's the Red Flag guy when you need him? Did he really need your laptop or was this his way of poking around? Sounds like he was searching and found something to be about. You don't need to be with off someone who's gonna snoop through your things and then shame you over what they found. Run girl, run!!!
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    adb_anonym ⚫5d ago WOW, the audacity to go through your personal stuff and be sour about them! Huge red flag for judging your past experiences from the times before you met
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    Another one for reading something you probably held somewhere safe (why did he even open that file?) Don't waste your time babe, not worth it
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    - Honourstly • 5d ago NTA. This is similar to if he had a dream where you cheated on him lol
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    hikergrl999 5d ago I suggest you find a grown-up to date

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